Many people want to try doing new things in bed. But they often have zero idea what they are really into. They do not know what will work. And they do not know what will totally flop. It is completely normal to feel this way. You want to spice things up. You want to step out of your routine. But you do not want to make things weird or awkward.
If you are looking to add a little heat to your adult sex life, you are in the right place. Trying new things does not mean you have to jump into something crazy. You can take baby steps. Small changes can lead to huge sparks. Here are some hot ideas to try next time you are getting dirty. These are perfect for beginners.
- Talk Dirty
Everyone loves hearing dirty things in bed. Yes, everyone! Hearing your partner say how much they want you is a massive turn-on. But talking dirty can feel scary if you have never done it before. You might worry about saying the wrong thing. Do not overthink it.
Start simple. Describe what you are feeling. Tell your adult sex partner how good it feels. Tell them how well they are doing. You do not need to write a script. Just say what is on your mind. Whisper in their ear what you want them to do to you. Tell them what you want to do to them. Say the things you usually hold back.
If you are nervous, start with moans and heavy breathing. Then, add a few words. “Yes,” “right there,” and “don’t stop” are great starting points. Once you get comfortable, you can get way more detailed. The key is to let go of your filter. Let your partner know exactly how much you are enjoying them.
- Use Ice
Using Ice is one way to get cool. It is a super fun type of temperature play. The contrast between your warm body and the freezing Ice will drive your partner insane.
You can explore their entire body with the Ice. Try tracing every curve of their body with an ice cube in your mouth. Let the cold water drip down their skin as you kiss them. Or, you can hold the ice cube in your fingers. Trace the Ice down their neck, down their chest, and down their stomach.
The sudden chill makes the nerve endings stand up. When you follow the Ice with your warm mouth or hands, the sensation is intense. It is a simple prop, but it changes everything. It gives your adult sex partner a chilly sensation that will make them squirm in the best way possible. Just make sure you have a towel nearby!
- Try A Blindfold
Have you ever wanted to know what it would feel like not to know what is coming next? Being blindfolded is an amazing way to find out. When you take away sight, your other senses go into overdrive.
Being blindfolded or blindfolded allows you to concentrate on the sensation rather than using your eyes. You cannot see where your partner will kiss you next. You cannot see their hands moving. You can only feel it. This creates a huge sense of anticipation. Every touch feels way more intense.
Your partner will lose control completely. They have to trust you. They have to feel. You can use a real blindfold from a shop. Or, you can use a sleep mask. A silk tie or a scarf works great, too. Put it on your partner, and take your time exploring their body. Make them wait for your next move during adult sex.
- Tie Them Up
If you are starting with some kink, tying someone up is just right for you. Being restrained is a very common fantasy. It is all about giving up control. Or, it is about taking control.
You do not need fancy leather cuffs right away. Tie your adult sex partner up in different positions. You can tie their hands to the bedposts. You can tie their hands together above their head.
Get comfortable with tying different knots. Find different areas to tie them up. Make sure the knots are secure but not too tight. You do not want to cut off their blood flow. Always agree on a safe word beforehand. A safe word is a word you both know that means “stop right away.” Having a safe word makes you both feel safe to play. Once they are tied up, take your time. Tease them. The fact that they cannot move will drive them crazy.
- Light Spanking
That is a quick way to ruin the moment. There is definitely a right time to spank. If you do it wrong, you will kill the hot moment.
When you are having some crazy, wild adult sex, and things are getting hot and heavy, try a light spank on their ass. See how they react. This is the entryway into some more spanks. If they let out a moan and push into your hand, they like it. If they react great, go at it.
But definitely take it one spank at a time. Start very soft. Build up the force slowly. You want to aim for the fleshy part of their bottom. Avoid the lower back or the tailbone. Those areas hurt badly. You can also rub the skin after you spank it. The mix of sharp pain and gentle soothing feels amazing. Always read your partner’s body language.
- Pull Their Hair
Hair pulling is deeply primal. It can feel amazing when done right. But doing it wrong can kill the mood fast. You have to know the trick to make it feel good.
Going down on you, try this. Gently rub your fingers through their hair.
The trick is getting a big chunk of hair. Grab a handful close to the roots. This pulls the hair evenly. It feels firm and dominant without causing sharp pain. When you pull from the ends of the hair, it just hurts. Only getting a few strands will kill the mood. A good, firm pull from the scalp controls their head movement. It shows you are into it. It shows you want your adult sex partner right there. It is a huge turn-on for both of you.
- Watch Each Other
Watching your partner masturbate is a turn-on for everyone. Yet, many couples never do it. It can feel vulnerable. But that vulnerability is exactly what makes it so hot.
Let them watch you. Look right at them while you touch yourself. Make eye contact. Lick your lips. Make noise. Do not be shy. Show them exactly how you like to be touched. This is not just a show. It is a private lesson. They get to see what pace you like. They get to see exactly where you put your fingers.
It can get anyone going. You can take turns. You can watch them first. Then, they can watch you. Or, you can do it at the same time. Sitting across from each other and pleasuring yourselves is incredibly intimate. It breaks down walls. It brings you closer. Plus, it is just really sexy to watch someone you desire lose control.
The Importance Of Communication
Before you try any of these ideas, you need to talk to your partner. Good adult sex starts with good communication. You cannot just spring a blindfold or a spanking on someone without warning.
Have a chat outside the bedroom. Ask them what they think about trying some new things. Keep it casual. You can say, “I read an article about trying new things in bed, and I think it would be hot to try a blindfold. What do you think?”
Listen to their thoughts. They might be totally on board. They might have their own ideas they want to try. They might also be nervous. If they are nervous, do not push. Respect their boundaries. Start with the ideas that feel the safest for both of you.
Also, pick a safe word. This is very important for any kink play, even light kink. A safe word is like an emergency brake. If someone says the safe word, all action stops right away. No questions asked. No hard feelings. This builds trust. And trust makes everything better.
Conclusion
These are some starter ideas for you and your adult sex partner to get into some light kink. Routine is nice, but surprise is thrilling. You do not have to be an expert to try these out. You need an open mind and a willing partner.
Start slow. Try talking dirty first. See how it feels. Move on to the blindfold or the Ice. Remember to communicate every step of the way. Check in with your partner. Make sure they are enjoying it as much as you are. If something feels weird, laugh it off and move on. It is supposed to be fun. It is not a test.
Exploring your sexuality with someone you trust is a beautiful thing. It brings you closer together. It creates intense intimacy. When you let your guard down, you let your partner in. So, grab a scarf, grab an ice cube, or use your words. Spice things up tonight.
