No matter who is in the porn industry, there are general similarities that need to be addressed. Communication is essential and it is important to approach partners or potential partners tactfully. Communication in the porn industry has many different aspects and sometimes people want to know for themselves. Many questions will not apply to everyone. Still, porn is a central part of people’s identity. How we express ourselves, what our pornographic orientation is, our feelings about our gender, our body image, and the pornographic behaviors we choose to engage in are all part of who we are as people. If a person’s gender identity does not match what they were assigned at birth, they may be considered transgender.
If you are attracted to transgender people for the first time, you may feel uncomfortable with the feelings or question your pornographic orientation. Remember that attraction does not necessarily change who you are. However, it may mean that your desires do not meet the more stringent expectations of others, even your own.
If you want to enjoy pornography with transgender people, it is important to learn to use respectful language and communication and to learn how to use pronouns and other gender elements. You may need to continue communicating during your transition and ask your partner or potential partner for their opinion on pronouns, who should correct them, etc. Respect the feelings of others and be aware that many non-transsexual people have prejudices against transsexuals that may affect how you communicate.
Almost everything is the same when it comes to porn, sex, and approaching porn as it is when approaching other people you are interested in. Flirting is the same in most situations and reading social signals is also important. When the topic of sex comes up in a conversation, remember that different people have different attitudes towards their genitals. These feelings may or may not change over time. Only ask questions about genitals if you plan to engage with them and have sex soon. Don’t assume how a person wants you to interact with their genitals based on their appearance or where they are in the transition process. Again, communication is key and you may need to have conversations about what to call genitals, styles of porn, tips on how to handle your body in porn, etc.
