“Not for everyone” is a common idiom for something that doesn’t suit everyone’s tastes or preferences. It is often used to describe something that is considered unusual, strange, or non-mainstream.
It’s easy to get caught under the radar here and feel like you’re not seen or heard as a buyer or seller. We are all so different and unique in every way that we’ve never met a buyer or seller who is similar to us physically, socially, intellectually, or emotionally. Each of us has something here that other people don’t have, and that’s our relationship.
But still, I think we can all hold up our hands and say that in the world of the best sex industry, we are scrutinized in some way – our looks, our personality, our tastes, our attitudes – and sometimes it can be harsh on us. It can make us feel a little unsatisfied. It can make us feel isolated and alienated from the community.
This blog is meant to get everyone thinking and realizing its okay to be outside everyone’s interest. This is to remind us that occasionally it’s not around you. Someone does not try to interact with, understand, or get closer to you because of your feelings, interests, insecurities, or preferences, and not necessarily because you are missing something. After all, who can recognize the real you from a photo or a virtual profile? I like to remind everyone who arrives here and sales power to do so cautiously to bypass desensitization and burnout and, beyond all, not to reach yourself to others mentally, physically, or spiritually.
Even though this community is very loving, a specific appearance, gesture, or status can put you into a stereotyped category. Words in posts, photos, and messages can be misinterpreted, and you may feel judged based on your appearance or type, even though you have never actually interacted with these people.
If you judge or stereotype, I remind you that if you give it a chance, that person could appear right next to you, that there is more than meets the eye, and that a person’s soul is as deep as the ocean. It is filled with complex thoughts, love, trauma, connections, lessons, and experiences. It is nearly impossible to know someone completely in this world, but it is wonderful to understand.
Engage and explore each type of person beyond what they seem at first glance. Even if you are opposites, they may share many characteristics and interests. Be tolerant and understanding. You never know who you will meet. But most of all, it reminds you that you don’t have to please everyone and don’t have to be like everyone else to succeed. Just be yourself in your relationships; you are enough. When you are in love, you emit a high frequency, the most active heart rate after love. If that doesn’t show you that relationships are the highest form of self-love, I don’t know what else does. Never adjust yourself to work into a container; don’t be boxed in; stand out, be noticed, and stand yourself.
No one in the world is comparable to you. You are beautifully designed, the only person in the world with a unique DNA structure, the only person you can see with your eyes. Compliment yourself when needed; love yourself without regrets, and in relationships. Find comfort and joy in pursuing your passions.
Walk confidently into the world like someone who has embraced their uniqueness. Only seek approval from those who understand you. Instead, find members of your tribe who recognize and celebrate your brilliance and genuine spirit. After all, it doesn’t matter if you are accepted by society if you haven’t embraced yourself with all your flaws. And in this acceptance, you will find your true light. Never think of yourself as second best to someone else. Still think that you live enough and remain authentic to yourself. Never sell yourself short or make yourself uncomfortable to meet someone else’s needs. No money in the world is worth this kind of self-betrayal.
